Message-ID: <42625asstr$1053886203@assm.asstr-mirror.org> X-Original-Message-ID: <20030525084539.90786.qmail@web40413.mail.yahoo.com> From: Planet Dweller X-ASSTR-Original-Date: Sun, 25 May 2003 01:45:39 -0700 (PDT) Subject: {ASSM} Fantasy Vs Reality In Incest (incest, no sex, op-ed) Date: Sun, 25 May 2003 14:10:03 -0400 Path: assm.asstr-mirror.org!not-for-mail Approved: Newsgroups: alt.sex.stories.moderated,alt.sex.stories Followup-To: alt.sex.stories.d X-Archived-At: X-Moderator-Contact: ASSTR ASSM moderation X-Story-Submission: X-Moderator-ID: dennyw, newsman ===== *Please visit my completely free online adult erotic story site of my original stories at: http://www.asstr-mirror.org/files/Authors/PlanetDweller/www ~~~Stories about menstrual sex, sex therapy, sex surrogacy, lesbian sex, incest, alien abductions, and more. *Please also visit "The Unofficial ASSTR/ASSM Authors' Support Group" I moderate at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ASSTR_ASSM_Authors/ __________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? The New Yahoo! Search - Faster. Easier. Bingo. http://search.yahoo.com <1st attachment, "Fantasy Vs Reality Child Parent Incest.txt" begin> Author: PlanetDweller Title: Fantasy Vs. Reality In Incestuous Child/Parent & Similar Power Imbalance Re"> Summary: An explicit psychological treatise and op-ed piece about the negative effects of real-life incest and the possible healing effects of fictional erotic stories about incest. Keywords: inc, incest, nosex, no sex, sexual language, op-ed piece Fantasy Vs. Reality In Incestuous Child/Parent & Similar Power Imbalance Relationships By PlanetDweller (inc, incest, nosex, no sex, sexual language, op-ed piece) Over the years of writing erotic stories intended for the adult reading public only that deal with the very real real-world issue of parent/child incestuous relationships I've gotten not just many severe flames but also a couple of actual death threats threatening to track me down somehow and kill me because they thought I was somehow promoting real-life child/parent incestuous sexual contact. Nothing could or can be further from the truth. Yes, I do write about parent/child incestuous contact a lot in many of my stories, and I also write about many other what I call "power imbalance" situations such as sexual relations between an adult consensually "teaching" a child or young adolescent about sex, the consensual power imbalance between a therapist and patient, a usually coercive in nature but sometimes consensual boss/employee power imbalance, and yes my famous I should say infamous stories about alien abductions of humans and their sexual experimentations on them. I make the point that even between consenting adults there usually isn't an exact 50/50 division of power within the relationship or at least most aspects of the relationship, pop psychology and liberal political correctness mutual drivelings about otherwise aside. There is a huge difference between the fantasy of child/parent sexual contact that I and many of my fellow writers of online erotica portray and the reality of the horrors of actual real-life incestual abuse situations. When I portray incest scenes, the parent is almost always loving and kind and sees their sexual contact with their children as a mentor-to-pupil process, the parent while usually enjoying the sex itself with their child, their main focus is on the healthy evolution of their child along their path into adulthood, their own sexual needs, wants and desire always being placed secondary or less in their own minds. While not totally self-less on their part, the parent figure in these cases always projects a positive benefit and outcome to their sexualizing of their own child. In the world outside of fantasy erotic fiction, the reality of the horror of parent/child incest is just that, a true horror. My own real-life family tree is riddled with the many rotten soul excuses for human beings that incest'd their own children not from a point of action of empowering the inner growth of their children but from a sense of lack of self-worth and self-respect, a sense of self-love being totally absent from these parents' identities and often times this lack of self-love of which the forced incestuous contact was a part of was also manifest in the parents' lives in other ways via exhibition of other self-destructive behaviors such as severe alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and violence against other adults let alone their own kids, because that's what these incestual encounters were manifest as, a form of mental and sometimes forced physical violence against their own children. These beyond less-than-miserable excuses of human beings used their positions of power within their family structures to force a form of violence against their own kids, their position of being atop the power imbalance "pyramid" giving them the opportunity, means, and method to seek to fill holes in their soul with the innocence stolen from their very own children. I don't care who you are, if you're a human being there's a part of your genetic code that creates a reaction of extreme nausea followed by extreme rage when you hear a real-world story on the news about how a parent, yes usually a father but sometimes a mother as well, inflicting severe sexual abuse on say, an infant or a two-year-old or similar for example. If you're not angry when you hear a news report about how a father raped his own three-year-old daughter or six-year-old or nine-year-old daughter and so physically and mentally destroyed her sense of self and sense of protection that the parent-child relationship is supposed to offer and sense of self-worth and self-love in that child, can you honestly tell me that when you hear of the real-life horrors of real-life incest that your first reaction isn't complete outrage? If you try to tell me that, then I'll tell you are either lying to me and/or yourself or that you truly are a dangerous sociopath, yourself. Are there, can there be, have there been instances between a parent/parents and child/children of real-life incestuous contact that proved very positive for the child/children involved and maybe even the parents too? Yes, of course. But those instances were/are so truly rare as to not be worth mentioning. The fact that one-tenth-of-one-percent or less of real-life incestuous cases at minimum did no harm to the child and maybe even did some positive good does not justify the fact that in those other 99.9%"+" cases the child involved had such a huge trauma inflicted upon them that their very being was negatively affected if not devastated for their rest of their lives through what was left of their childhood into adulthood and the bell still ringing harshly even into their senility. And the fact that this tiny, tiny percent of cases where the outcome was positive when there was a positive motivating force behind the actions of the parents involved belies the fact that in these cases the positive outcome was a "happy accident" no matter how misguided but well-intentioned the respective parents' motivations were. A child is an individualized work-in-progress where no one not even the parents know the exact psychological, physical and holistic synergies of their child and to dare cross such a genetic-based anti-incest-boundary that is present in every single human being on this planet is not just the height of arrogance and hubris but also is plain fucking stupid. When a parent, however well-grounded and normal and mature otherwise psychologically they might be takes on the responsibility of forcing the natural evolutionary path that's programmed into all of us by the forced sexual promulgation of early sexual activity upon their child and the child either suffers no short or long-term negative effects from it and perhaps if the world is lucky as a whole might even obtain something positive from it, then the result is a "happy accident", not a result of anything the parent actually did of a positive sexual nature with their child. It's like someone who is an untrained chemist decides that they have the instinctual knowledge to go into a research lab and by the grace of God only start mixing bunches of chemicals together in the vain and hubric hope that the witch's brew of mixed-together dangerous chemicals that they have no clue what they're blending together might actually do will be the cure for cancer or an elixir of youth or some other bizarre and unrealistic product instead of highly probably since they have no clue as to what they are doing just as no one can know the true soul-chemistry of any other human being let alone a child creating an end product that usually poisons and hurts those involved if not often times destroying the lives of all involved with an unexpected explosion of unexpected consequences. When there is no power imbalance, though, such as in routine sexplay between children of the same age group, then their respective personal sexual evolutions progress normally as they should. In other words, kids "playing doctor" with each other is normal, a parent playing gynecologist or urologist to their kids is not. Within the social framework of childhood progression, children will seek out the knowledge of sex when and where it most appropriate for them, no matter if parents want to accelerate or more usually in the vast majority of families all over the globe in all cultures and countries want to decelerate their children's sexual education and evolution because the nature of being a parent is to protect and nurture their children and most adult parents instinctively, genetically know that sexual knowledge and sexual contact should happen only when a child has reached a certain level of personal maturity, prepubescence being a universal benchmark of said lack of maturity and oftentimes even early post-pubertal stages also being recognized as being too early in most children's evolving as a starting point for the beginnings of what will become their real-time sexual path into adulthood. Are there certain, highly unusual situations where direct hands-on sexual therapy between child and adult sex therapist could either heal the negative product of true incest or other sexual abuse? Yes, but those cases would be so rare that they're not even worth mentioning. It's one thing for me to write about those kinds of cases in my own erotic stories as vehicles for fantasy exploration and to try to help heal the very real adult victims of past childhood incest and sexual abuse who might be reading those stories and using what I write as a means to explore and analyze and hopefully come to grips and help heal themselves by using their vehicle of their imagination to re-work and re-program themselves so that by reading about how a hands-on sex therapist helps heal a child who's been a victim of incest and abuse in turn helps heal the child still within the adult who happens to be reading one of my stories. That's why I began writing my stories about the positive influences of adult therapist/child patient and benevolent-loving parent/unusually-mature-for-their-age children sexual contact, in order to help my mission of trying to help heal others. Little did I realize then what I know now which is that as I was writing for my own self-imposed goal of helping to heal others of the past traumas of childhood sexual abuse that I actually was creating the vehicle to heal my own self. ``````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````` Send all comments to: planet_dweller@yaho.com ''''''''''''''''''''''''''`````````````````````````````````````` If you're an author who's had their work posted in the Usenet group ASSM (Alt.Sex.Stories.Moderated) or at the ASSTR website, you're welcomed and encouraged to join our "Unofficial ASSTR/ASSM Authors' Support Group" which actually has the official blessings of ASSTR. 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